If you read my piece about Mothers Day, I’m sure you would’ve read into my thought behind these days; basically another Hallmark conspiracy. Many a cynic, much like myself, would argue that one should honour your mother/father/secretary every day but in all honesty, life takes over.
So instead, I’m left feeling somewhat guilt-ridden when I don’t rush off to the store to purchase my dad another pair of oh-so-thoughtful golf socks with the rest of the minions.
Many a shrink and shaman have made mention of the fact that the relationship between a father and a daughter is one that, and all Freudians will agree, determines whether the daughter twirls her hair or a pole or marries an Ike or a Tina. But the bottom line is, we work with what we have because as the end of the day, dads are people too.
As Father’s Day approaches, I think about potential gifts but then, to be quite honest, my dad has pretty much everything he could ever want: power tools, sporting equipment, clothing and music DVDs that he watches a decibel or two too loudly for my mom’s liking. So once again, I employ the tactic of the giving of time and of self instead of tacky knick knacks that serve little purpose except to be the home of dust bunnies of the future.
We love real beer
Introduce your dad to the wiles of craft beer. It’s a phenomenon that has taken SA and the world by storm. Smaller producers and micro-breweries produce some of the best artisan beer around.
Find out what his favourite type or style of beer is and book a trip to the brewery where you both can speak to the beer masters and taste to your heart’s content. A day out of the city will do you both some good. Check out Boston Breweries, Nottingham Breweries or Gilroy’s, they all make ciders or ales as well, in case you’re not a beer drinker.
A blast from the past
Yes, we’ve all grown up and moved out of home. We all have jobs and fend for ourselves. Somehow though, irrespective of whether we take over the world or not, we will always be our dad’s children and they want to feel needed. Why not ask your dad to teach you to play squash/pool/table tennis or to take you out camping/fishing/rowing. It’s a throw back to a time he will remember fondly- the perfect gift for the first man in your life.
A thousand words
Dads get sentimental as the years go on and if I had to be completely honest, so do I. Put together a collage or frame your favourite picture of a time when you and dad were together. The day he taught you how to ride a bike or tie your shoelaces or perhaps when he still had his leftover beard from the 70’s and you two took your first nap together.
To everyone who will be close to his or her dads, I’m seriously jealous. Will have to make another lengthy call to Durbs. Happy Fathers Day!